About Kait


Hi There Pleasure Seeker- I’m Kait!

I’m a sex & relationship educator for who teaches you fresh ideas + how to know & ask for what you want so you can have the intimate, exciting, & fulfilling sex life you desire.

Can I get a hell yes?

So here’s the deal: You have an amazing relationship – you’re totally in love with your sweetie and the very definition of #RelationshipGoals. Except…in the bedroom. While you’re fiercely committed to your own pleasure and dedicated to keeping your sex life fun, something isn’t working sexually. You’re know something needs to change but you aren’t sure where to start or, if you do know, how to make it happen.

I love helping women in long-term relationships (married or not!) like yours figure out what turns you on, gets you there (yes…there), and how to get the spark back with your partner.

I’m a sex-positive, feminist educator with a passion for sex toys and asking for what you want.

This means I know how to help you (re)create an adventurous, intimate, and fulfilling relationship. I’m also equal parts scientist, hippie, and dancing queen. I take your deepest desires and use my communication skills, sex and pleasure know-how, empathy, and personal understanding of what keeps long-term relationships passionate to help you create a sex life that is natural, easy, and joyful.

Maintaining the spark in a relationship is possible.

I’ve done in it my 12 year relationship and I hope you will trust me when I tell you, as your Partner in Passion, that you can too!

My Story


Once upon a time… I dreamed of saving the world by being a doctor. By the time  I was accepted to medical school , though, I was jaded by the state of medicine and had found my true calling teaching about sex.

You see two years earlier I discovered sex toy shopping parties and my world changed. What started as a desire to make some extra cash morphed into an overwhelming need to learn everything I could about sex, pleasure, and relationships. From college students to cancer patients, new moms and survivors of sex trafficking, everyone had unanswered questions, concerns, and fears about sexuality. As a result, I committed to be more than the sex toy lady. Instead, I wanted to empower you to embrace you sensual self and enjoy the many wonderful things that sex offers.

To me, sex represented complete freedom, the ultimate act of mindfulness, vulnerability, and letting go.

That is the experience I want everyone to have. However, a combination of working in  oncology and returning to school for my Master’s in Public Health confirmed this was not the case. Patients had questions about their sex lives that no one was answering. Sexual violence and sex education often were pitted against each other, leaving survivors without necessary tools to have the sex lives they wanted. STI rates are skyrocketing as condom use declines and sexual shame runs rampart. I realized links needed to be made between the different worlds I worked in.

After all, we can’t talk about sexual disease, violence, or shame without first talking about sex.

Since I started doing sex toy shopping parties several years ago, a lot has changed. I went from being the girl who sells sex toys to teaching at colleges, medical schools, conferences, and sex toy shops. I stopped focusing exclusively on the pleasurable side of sex and began working in sexual violence prevention. I starting talking about body image, sensuality, and my vanilla-ness. What hasn’t changed is my belief that talking openly about sex takes away its power to incite embarrassment, shame, and guilt and allows individuals to heal their relationship: with the act itself and with others.

That brings us to now & my dedication to helping you live a life of passion, guilt- and shame-free.

If you’ve read this far, something is probably hitting home for you. Which means there’s something about my relationship, my journey, or my approach to sex and relationships that’s resonating with you.

That means we’ve got some sexy work to do.

Your first step? Join my community of pleasure seekers (just enter your name and email at the top or bottom of the page) and get your free gift (which will help you start having more pleasure immediately). After that? Get ready to spice up your relationship.

Have questions? Don’t hesitate to drop me a line.

Your Partner in Passion,

Kait xo


Kait’s Bio

Kait Scalisi, MPH is a sex & relationship educator for women in long-term relationships who desire a more intimate, exciting, and fulfilling sex life. She has a Bachelors of Science in Neuroscience from Stonehill College and an Master’s of Public Health from Johns Hopkins School of Public Health.

Through her confidence-boosting, ridiculously fun workshops, blog posts, and one-on-one coaching, Kait helps you say OMG YES to knowing and asking for what you want and getting the spark back – while making it feel totally easy and not at all awkward. In addition to running Passion by Kait, she is the Director of Education and Training with My Secret Luxury, the premiere retailer of high end adult products.

Her “you-can-try-them-tonight tips” have been featured on glossy magazines + websites like Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health, & Livestrong, while her expertise on sex-positivity & health have brought her to institutions including Yale School of Public Health, Johns Hopkins Medical Institute, & Northeastern University.

When she’s not teaching women how to find #freedominpleasure, you can find Kait dancing around her living room in her undies or wandering NYC with a latte in hand.