Adventurous Date Ideas

Curiosity and exploration are the foundation of an intimate, exciting, & fulfilling sex life that lasts. Broadly, that means finding ways to add newness to your relationship and sexy times, like these adventurous date ideas. Practically, it means always asking, “What else?!” For example: What else…

Asking these questions naturally instills a sense of adventure in your relationship. And that’s good because…

It’s normal for passion & connection to fade over time

Early in a relationship, your brain pumps out a shit ton of dopamine every time you see or think about your new beau. Dopamine’s associated with pleasure. In high amounts, it makes you feel euphoric. Think: butterflies, racing heart, trouble sleeping and focusing, obsessing over your new beau, and wanting to go at it like rabbits.

As time goes on, your brain stops making as much dopamine. You get used to your beau being around. Just like the 10th bite of ice cream isn’t as dreamy as the first, so your typical date night starts feeling less exciting.

You obsess a little less, focus a little more, and generally become a whole person again (seriously: early love is all-consuming in the best possible way). Deep but gentle intimacy (and sometimes comfy relationship hell) replaces wild, fiery passion. This is absolutely normal. And also bothersome if you want to feel more passionately in love.

Luckily there’s an easy fix:

If you want to reconnect your relationship, plan an adventure

Doing new things together gives you both a hit of dopamine. Your heart beats faster, you breathe more quickly, and you notice more – colors, scents, and sensations. All good things to be more mindful of for better sex!

Plus, dopamine triggers your body to release more testosterone, the hormone that fuels sexual desire in all genders.

You don’t need to plan a grand adventure [though you can!] to get that falling in love feeling. It has to be new to at least one of you, though it’s best if neither of you have tried it before.

16 Ways Adventurous Date Ideas

In the spirit of giving, here are 16 adventurous date ideas! They’ll help you answer “what else?” and, get all the associated sex & relationship benefits!

Adventurous Sex Date Ideas

  1. Try sensation play. Here’s what that is and how to add it to your sex life.
  2. Reenact your favorite scene from a beloved porn or romance novel. Go all out with props, costumes, and maybe even a different location. Or keep it simple, focus on the premise, and use your imagination.
  3. Explore the back door. If you’re just starting out, be sure to read our must-know tips for beginners.
  4. Explore different ways of experiencing orgasm. Make it a goal to try these eight ways to get off without intercourse.
  5. Try your favourite position, in a slightly different way. Change the direction you face, tilt your hips differently, incorporate sex furniture like this pillow, and more.
  6. Use lube! Even if you don’t “need” it, lube enhances sensation and changes how various sex acts feel.
  7. Get it on in the water. Shower, ocean, pool, whatever. Just a) avoid hot tubs as they’re a hotbed of bacteria and b) do not, do not, DO NOT forget the silicone lube! Water dries you out and water-based lube washes away.
  8. Try mutual masturbation. Its super intimate and can be hotter than sex. Plus, its faster! Here’s everything you need to know.
  9. Attend a sex workshop or event. Many feminist sex toy shops host these in-person. Meanwhile, our friends over at SHIP host them virtually.

Read more: Your Guide to Sexy Role Play & How to Do It Without Feeling Silly

Incorporate toys!

  1. Try a sex toy! Sex toys add newness and fun. You can explore our personal faves here.
  2. Consume sexy media together. It can be porn (videos & photos), erotica (books, short stories, & poetry), sexy blogs (like this one), and more. You can find all our favourite porn sites here.
  3. Commit to finding your g-spot. Already know where it is? Here are 5 different ways to have a g-spot orgasm.
  4. Get out of a rut…with your vibrator. No, you cannot become addicted to your vibrator. But you can get a little too dependent on it. Thankfully, it’s not permanent! Here’s how to retrain your body for pleasure if that happens.

Read more: How to Introduce Sex Toys into Your Relationship

Tend your self

  1. Get a bra fitting and then some perfect-for-you lingerie. Being professionally fitted and investing in good bras helps you feel more confident and in turn, sexy. And these days there’s something out there for every size, shape, and style preference.
  2. Don’t act your age. Look to childhood games to add a sense of adventure. Think: twister, tag, and pillow fights.

Read more: 15 Sensual Self-Care Activities that Don’t Cost a Thing

Adding adventure doesn’t have to be so hard!

You don’t need a closet full of props, a ton of time, or even a kinky side. Choose one or two activities from this list that sounds sexy and fun, and give it a few tries. If it works, add it to your bedroom repertoire. If not, ditch it! Either way, come back to this list and choose your next fun adventure.

In other words, to keep your sex life intimate, exciting, & fulfilling, just keep asking, “what else?

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