4 Tips for Hot Doggy Style Sex

Most advice about sex positions has you doing some sort of acrobatics- you know, balancing on one leg or your head or having your sweetie lift you up. And let’s be real- for a lot of people this isn’t fun or even possible (though if you love it, get on with your bad self).

There’s an easier way to increase your pleasure in the bedroom.

Simply make small tweaks to classic sex positions like like missionary, woman on top, and doggie style.

Doggy style is both the most controversial (as in you either love it or hate it) sex position and the one I recommend the most. Why? There’s so many ways to change it up so that it feels amazing for you and your partner.

Doggy style is the easiest sex position to change up.

Doggy style generally means you’re on all four and your partner enters you from behind. I prefer to classify any rear entry position as doggy style. This means you can be standing, kneeling, laying on your stomach, or anywhere in between. You can use pillows to prop yourself up (I recommend this one since its extra supportive and has a machine washable cover), lay on a table or desk, press against a wall…the list goes on and on.

The point is, there’s a way to customize doggy style sex to feel effin’ fabulous for you and your lover.

Doggy style makes it easy to have sex anytime, anywhere.

Seriously: find a wall, face it, pull down your pants or hike up your skirt, and go to work. From bathroom quickies to a very welcoming welcome home, doggy style lets you do it in tight spaces with minimal fuss. #freedominpleasure at it’s finest.

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Doggy style makes it easy to stimulate a whole bunch of other feel good areas.

Basically your whole body is easily accessible. Can you say orgasm, guaranteed? Use hands, toys, and mouths to massage, rub, tease, or spank your breasts, clit, booty, and back. Not sure which parts of your body you love being touched the most? Try this out.

Doggy style also is a great position for stimulating your g-spot.

As I discuss in this post, your G-spot is an area on the frontal (belly-button side) vaginal wall that, for many people, feels good when stimulated. In doggy style, your partner’s penis is more likely to rub against that area (because…geometry). While many things come into play here–the size of your partner’s penis, how much pressure you need on your G-spot, and whether G-spot stimulation even feels good to you (because it doesn’t for everyone)–I’ve found doggy style, more than other positions, is good for G-spot exploration.

Doggy style is super intimate.

There’s something about sticking your bum up and out and giving away some control that either gets you going or makes you run away screaming. Sex is an intimate act to begin with and doin’ it doggy style amplifies that further. There’s a loss of control. You’re fully on display. There isn’t necessarily eye contact. And there’s something gritty, raw, and animalistic about it all. That’s kind of what makes it so hot…but also so intimidating.

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Now that you know all the ways doggy style is awesome, the question becomes how to make it work well for you and your sex life. The goal is to maximize the pleasure you experience while doing it.

4 Tips for Hot Doggie Style Sex

Whether you’ve done it doggy style a million times or are looking to try it for the first time, these four tips make doggy style sexier.

  1. Stimulate your clitoris. I swear to all higher beings, this one tip will change your life. Seriously, if you ignore everything else I’ve written, don’t ignore this. Even if you love G-spot stimulation, the clitoris is your pleasure center (don’t believe me? watch this). 8000+ nerve ending with no other purpose than feeling good. So grab your favorite vibe or use your fingers and go to town.
  2. Use shorter thrusts. You’ve told me over and over again that doggy style kind of hurts. That’s because it allows for deeper penetration than other sex positions. Your partner may actually be hitting your cervix and if you aren’t fully turned on, this usually doesn’t feel good. For most women “fully aroused” means 20-30 minutes of foreplay. And its more than being wet (which you might not be anyway): you’re wanting to. If you’ve extended your foreplay time, added lube, and still find doggy style uncomfortable ask your partner to use shorter thrusts. Not only will this prevent them from hitting your cervix but it also focuses the thrusting on your G-spot.

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  3. Shake that ass (Move it like a gypsy). Feel free to ignore the specific instructions in that song but don’t ignore the underlying message: moving your hips will take doggy style to a whole new level. Play around with what feels good: moving side-to-side, in small circles, up and down (yes I just told you to twerk…don’t be hatin’), or back to meet your honey’s thrusts. You’ll know you’ve found what works for you when you’re oh-so-surprised by new feel-good spots. Also- combining this with clitoral stimulation may just turn you into a pile of jelly. You’re welcome.
  4. Play with the booty. So while your butt is up and out, it might as well get some attention, right? Spanking is certainly possible. Groping and massaging ar great too. You might also enjoy some external anal stimulation (I recommend the Limon for this…just don’t forget to wash it thoroughly before using it on your clit again) or even penetration with fingers, anal beads, butt plugs, or any of many size dildos.

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Doggy style isn’t for everyone.

“But Kait, you just spent x number of words convincing us that doggy style is THE way to go…”

Let me be clear sister: doggy style ain’t for everyone. NOTHING in sex is. So if you read through this and go, “Naw still not for me,” that’s 100% totally ok. Your sex life has to work for you and your partner(s) and no one else.

The right way to do doggy style.

There are as many different ways to do doggy style as there are people to do it. Ok that may be an exaggeration but my point is- you’ve got to do it in a way that feels amazing for you. Finding the way that works for you, your body, and your partner lets you have the hottest, most fulfilling, and most pleasurable doggy style sex.

Your Partner in Passion,

Kait