Choosing a sex toy can be overwhelming – there are so many options! Plus, every body is different. What worked for your sibling, co-worker, or bestie may or may not be the right toy for you. However, learning about what others love (and hate) in their toys helps you find the perfect toy for you. To that end, here are my top 10 sex toys plus why I love them. These are the goodies I reach for again and again – they aren’t necessarily the newest or the fanciest, but they work for me, my body, & my relationship (because they aren’t all just for me). Which is what really counts!
Passion by Kait’s Top 10 Sex Toys
I made it easy to #treatyoself or your beau: just click on the name of the toy. Have questions or want a personalized recommendation? Email me at passionbykait[at]gmail[dot]com.
Light the candle to set the mood and get your room smelling sexy. When it’s burned down, blow it out, pour it on, and rub it in with the massager. The “wax” isn’t wax but soybean oil so it won’t burn or leave residue on your skin, but it does make for the perfect sexy massage. Bonus: you can heat the stone up or cool it down to spice things up even more.
1-3 drops on the clitoris helps you get in the mood more quickly and have stronger, easier, more frequent orgasms. I <3 this one in particular because it uses cinnamon oil instead of menthol (which often burns) and comes in three different levels. Start with the Lite or Original and only try the Ultra if you’re regularly using 3 drops of the Original. Perfect for those nights when they’re in the mood and you aren’t ready yet or when you only have a few minutes to get it done (before work or the kids or whatever).
Lube prevents small tears in the vagina or anus and makes sex feel more yummy. Silicone lube lasts forevah and this is the one won’t stain your sheets or leave a weird film on your intimate. Use it for intercourse, handies, or in the shower. Just don’t use it with silicone toys – they’ll dissolve each other and you’ll be sad (and so will I).
Need lube to use with your favorite silicone sex toy? My favorite is Sliquid Organic.
The perfect beginner’s toy. Small, powerful, and easy to use – there’s one button and a low battery indicator. Plus it’s size lets you stimulate your clitoris and vaginal opening at the same time. You can also use it on the labia, nipples, scrotum, penis, perineum (t’aint), or anywhere you want an extra stimulation.
This vibe totally changed my self-pleasure for the better. I don’t always use it, but when I do, my orgasms are explosive. Shaped to fit perfectly in your hand, Mimic lets you choose between broad stimulation of your vulva or direct vibration to your clitoris. Or get fancy and thrust it over your clit and…just trust me on this.
This finger toy turns your beau’s hands into a vibrator. That makes it perfect for all sorts of sexy time, from steamy makeouts to intercourse. Plus how unintimidating if your beau is anxious about using toys! Fin is also ergonomic, powerful, and small enough to fit between your bodies during all sorts of positions.
The perfect toy for G-spot beginners & experts alike! If you aren’t sure where exactly your spot is, the Uma’s broad, round tip will help you find it AND figure out which type of sensation works best for you. Already know? Said tip lets you experiment with different sensations, including a good amount of pressure. Bonus! Uma’s curve is perfect for clitoral stimulation as well and the toy is slim enough to fit between you during intercourse.
I started using these at the recommendation of my pelvic floor physical therapist (a home exercise program has never been so fun!). I soon became obsessed with using them while masturbating. I love how easy they are to thrust thanks to the big based, and how their curve perfectly hits my G-spot or A-spot.
Variety keeps your sex life intimate, exciting, and fulfilling – and the Rave offers it in spades. It’s asymmetrical design means that it doesn’t stimulate you evenly or even smoothly. Instead each thrust and twist gives you new sensations and keeps your arousal heightened. I can’t use this until I’m fully aroused but when I do…*fans self*…it leads to some of my most intense orgasms ever.
A fabulous all-over body massager. Easy to use and hold with powerful vibrations. When you’re ready for more power or looking for less direct clitoral stimulation AND something that’s versatile, this is your friend.
A sleeve that looks like a piece of art? Um yes please. Use it to masturbate your sweetie or tuck it into their suitcase when they travel for work. Expert tip: right before they climax, hold the sleeve around the base of the penis with one hand and tug on the other end of the sleeve, near the tip, with the other. It’ll create a little suction that makes their orgasm amazing. And don’t forget the (water-based) lube.
Disclaimer: I’m a proud affiliate for these products. If you decide to purchase any of these sexy goodies, I may receive a commission – it doesn’t cost you extra and if I didn’t love it, I wouldn’t share it with you! Thanks for supporting #freedominpleasure!