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All About Orgasm – As Seen on Fusion’s Sex Right Now
Want to learn All About Orgasms? This fan-favorite workshop was recently featured on Sex Right Now with Cleo Stiller.
Missed the episode? Saw it & want to learn more? Here were Cleo’s main takeaways.
What is an orgasm?
Orgasm is the explosive release of sexual tension. It can happen from stimulation of the clitoris, the vagina, the anus, the eyebrows, the feet, the breasts, or just by thinking about sex, depending on a lot of factors, including simple factors like PRACTICE and CONTEXT.
Emily Nagoski in her amazing book, Come as You Are
Orgasm Comes from your brain
You experience orgasm when you get the stimulation that works for you in the context that works for you! For most women, the “right” context is high trust, high affection, & low stress. Regardless of the specifics, the “wrong” context is when there’s too many other competing needs competing for your brain’s focus – whether that’s stress, body image concerns, worries about your relationship/family/health/job, or even feeling too cold (or hot)!
The key, then, to better sex, is to create the right context for you.
The Most Common Misconception About Orgasm
learn from the Past to have better sex now
Most of what impacts your sex life has nothing to do with sex. From feeling relaxed to feeling accomplished, the context in which you have sex more likely determines how good it is!
That’s why, when you look back at your past sexual experiences, you’ll find a handful of things that have been present in all your favorite experiences. Most likely it’s missing from your least favorite experiences – or something else was present that overrode it!
This is the exact experience I take you through in my All About Orgasm workshop (next one is Oct 24 in Flatiron. Click here for tickets – they’re going fast!). Here’s a DIY version to get you started:
- Think about the best orgasm you’ve ever experienced.
- Envision the scene. Think: who/what/when/where/why/how. Who were you with? What happened before, during, & after? What did you see, hear, smell, feel, & taste? When was it, both time of day and what was happening in your life? Is there a reason you were doing it, like celebrating something or as a thank you for some kind act? How did it all go down?
- Write down everything you remember, even the littlest detail.
- Now circle 1-3 things that are a good combination of impactful & easy to do.
- Voila! You’ve taken the first step to creating the right context for your best orgasm again and again and again.
Want to learn all about orgasms?
If you crave a sex life that’s as intimate, exciting, & fulfilling as the rest of your relationship – without feeling awkward, twisting themselves into a pretzel, or spending hours a day on intimacy-building activities, host your own All About Orgasm workshop for you and your friends.
Glad your friend finally kicked the jerk to the curb and want to celebrate their new independence? Got a friend with a big birthday who’s never even tried a vibrator? Celebrating your besties upcoming nuptials and want a sophisticated alternative to a stripper? Want to send them off with everything they need for the best honeymoon evah? Want to get a few of your boo’d up friends together and learn some new blowjob techniques? Workshops are great for birthday parties, bachelorette parties, divorce parties, and friends’ nights in.
Dates through Valentine’s Day 2018 are going fast!
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